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What does Codependency have to do with spending?
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Codependency
If you are Codependent you are the type of individual who cares more about everyone else's problems than your own. You need to overcome your need to please everyone. You will give and give of your time and yes your MONEY to help others in their dire need. Codependency used to be referred to caring for someone who is a alcoholic, however, now they are finding individuals are portraying Codependency behavior which they may have learned sometime in their their lifetime. Somewhere along the line you need to put a stop to the giving. When you are giving to the point it is hurting yourself, putting yourself in deep debt to help others there is something wrong with that picture. You need to say to yourself... Enough is Enough and get some help.Codependency can also hurt you emotionally making you feel lonely or insecure. There are two books in our book link we recommend-- Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie -- and Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone
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Free Yourself From Codependent
Relationships
- Do your self-esteem and good feelings about yourself depend on receiving appreciation or approval from your partner (or other relationships)?
- Do you find yourself saying "Yes” to things when you want to say "NO!" and getting stuck doing things you don't want to?
- Do you sacrifice your own interests and hobbies to accommodate your partner(or other relationships)?
- Does your fear of rejection determine what you say or do?
- Do you put someone else’s needs ahead of yours at all costs?
You don't have to depend on others for your joy and fulfillment anymore!
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself........I highly recommend getting this book. Look into it in our Books section of this web site. We will be forming a separate chat room for Codependency.
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Have Some Fun!
Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Enjoy life!
We do not have to be so somber and serious. We do not have to be so reflective, so-critical, so bound up within ourselves and the rigid parameters others, and often ourselves, have placed around us.
This is life, not a funeral service. Have some fun with it. Enter into it. Participate. Experiment. Take a risk. Be spontaneous. Do not always be so concerned about doing it right, doing the appreciate thing.
Do not always be so concerned about what others will think or say. What they think and say are their issues not ours. Do not be so afraid of making a mistake. Do not be so fearful and proper. Do not inhibit yourself so much.
God did not intend us to be so inhibited, so restricted, so controlled. These repressive parameters are what other people have imposed on us, what we have allowed to be done to us.
We were created fully human. We were given emotions, desires, hopes, dreams, feelings. There is an alive, excited, fun-loving child in us somewhere! Let it come out! Let it come alive! Let it have some fun – not just for two hours on Saturday evening. Bring it with us, let it help us enjoy this gift of being alive, being fully human, and being who we are!
So many rules. So much shame we’ve lived with. It simply isn’t necessary. We have been brainwashed. It is time now to free ourselves, let ourselves go, and enter fully human into our life.
Don’t worry. We will learn our lessons when necessary. We have learned discipline. We will not go awry. What will happen is that we will begin enjoying life. We will begin enjoying and experiencing our whole self. We can trust ourselves. We have boundaries now. We have our program for a foundation. We can afford to experiment and experience. We are in touch with ourselves and our Higher Power. We are being guided, but a frozen inanimate object cannot be guided. It cannot be moved.
Have some fun. Loosen up a bit. Break some rules. We won’t be punished by God. We do not have to allow people to punish us. And we can stop punishing ourselves. As long as we’re here and alive, let’s begin to live.
Tell yourself…
Today, I will let myself have some fun with life. I will loosen up a bit, knowing I won’t crack and break. God help me let go of my need to be so inhibited, proper, and repressed. Help me inject a big dose of life into myself by letting myself be fully alive and human.
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Recommended books if you are Codependent - How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself or if you have a Approval Addiction in that some of us require constant approval from peers, parents, children, friends, superiors, and co-workers, a state of affairs that results in never-ending disappointment in our lives.
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| The Language of Letting Go |
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| More Language of Letting Go |
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| Journey to the Heart |
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| Codependency No More |
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| Approval Addiction |
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